by Alan Stewart
Someone once
quoted "a venerable philosopher" as saying, "It
is through the clash of differing opinions that the light of truth
shines."
I suggest that this is one of the most dangerous blind spots of western culture.
This is that the term 'debate' in common parlance has subtle
and profound
consequences that are generally underestimated. While debate brings
rigor to
analysis, it is essentially confrontational. Talking of debate
can be
misleading and counterproductive - part of the problem - when
there is a
need to build ideas and to seek creative solutions interdependently.
For by its very nature a debate is a contest, a game, with
winners and
losers defined by who is right and who is wrong. Inviting people
to
contribute to a debate is to set up adversarial positions which
are attacked
and defended. When this happens the aggressive and antagonist
models of
interaction which apply in most 'advanced' democracies are inevitably
set in
train. This often means no agreement or consensus, no positive
'next moves',
and consequently no progress. And no 'light of truth!'
Inevitably the use of the term 'debate' carries with it the
seeds of loss of
energy and goodwill and spirit to the whole system. Witness the
process of
so many election 'races' in the US!
The alternative? To converse, rather than debate.
When people gather to converse there is a totally different
spirit
released - a spirit of listening with attention and of latent
creativity.
Now the purpose is to build ideas together, acknowledging and
honoring
difference of opinion.
When we argue or debate, we actually seek to block the other's
contribution
and limit potential solutions or suggestions, limiting world consciousness.
Every time we converse, talk openly with another human being,
a
third-joint-level of consciousness is created, from the best of
both of us.
The word 'converse' is not widely used in everyday parlance
- yet! It
derives from the Latin con versare - to turn or to dance together.
Two well
established processes in which participants do converse help people
to move
to common ground through care-full listening and a sense of 'We're
in this together.'
Open Space Technology (see openspaceworld.org)
and World Café (theworldcafe.com)
both engender respect among all who participate, release passion
and
responsibility, and lead to widespread ownership of outcomes.
Both are
likely rediscoveries of what happened around ancient campfires.
Persuasion and agreement are irrelevant when people converse,
as are right
and wrong, and the more the diversity of opinion the greater the
likely
emergence of imaginative solutions. For conversing is the fount
of
creativity, respect, trust and goodwill, all of which are prerequisites
to
peoples adapting harmoniously to change.
Participants in a conversation come to appreciate that all
have something to
contribute to building a more accurate picture of reality and
building a
good solution. In this context people who disagree with us need
to be very
carefully listened to because their critiques help us see things
we might
otherwise miss. Keeping the spirit of mutuality and respect alive
as we
converse about our different views, then, is the way of allowing
all the
differences -- which are valuable to creating the best thinking
-- to come
to the surface and be carefully considered. When the people who
disagree are
finally satisfied, then we know we have something that everyone
can
participate in building.
In my experience people come to a conversation with an open
mind and with a
sense of wanting it to succeed. Knowing this, I believe that democratic
practice at all levels will come to have conversing as its underpinning,
not
debate.
Pie in the sky? I invite you to see for yourself how very differently
people
respond to a forum on a conflicted issue when it is called a conversation
rather
than debate.
'Much truth could be revealed and many smoke screens cleared
through a
publicly accessible forum on the goals of society' - so long as
this forum is based on
conversing!
"Conversation as the Energiser of New Ways of Being and
New Ways of Doing."
In Reworking Tomorrow. The Slim Book. 1998.
http://www.resilientcommunities.org/Articles/clues.htm
"Clues on Conversations." Reworking Tomorrow Magazine.
Spring 1999. p 7.
http://www.lis.net.au/~rtn/contents/issue4page7.htm
"Conversation rather than debate in public discourse:
How to bring non
adversarial approaches into everyday practice." Synopsis
of paper presented
at conference on 'Narratives for a New Millennium.' Adelaide,
Australia.
February 2000. Published in Reworking Tomorrow Magazine
Autumn 2000 pp 9-10.
http://www.lis.net.au/~rtn/contents/issue6page9.htm
Alan Stewart
Tel (61 8) 8370 0592 Fax (61 8) 8370 0593
PO Box 6250, Halifax St, Adelaide SA 5000 Australia
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